BDSM Basics: What’s a Safe Word

Date: 12 June by BDSMshorts

BDSM is everywhere. You can’t find fisting porn that doesn’t feature it. And ever since “Fifty Shades of Grey” took off, more and more porn for women started including BDSM as well. When you’re ready to take things to the next level, don’t actually base your expectations of porn on BDSM. Instead, look to written porn for women for a better idea of what you need. To start with, you need a safe word.

A safe word is a word that will stop whatever you’re doing. It can’t just be “no” or “stop” because your woman might say that during sex anyway. If you’re playing out a torture fantasy, of course, she’s going to say no! She probably won’t yell out UNIVERSAL HEALTHCARE during the scene, however. That tells you that you’re doing something wrong and you should stop. Once you’ve figured out what was wrong, you can get back to the scene.